I am chilled to the bone, Suzanna, because my daughter did not survive an abusive relationship, and because I had no idea the depths of her misery. She died several weeks ago, and this article brings so much awareness and clarity for me, as I am trying to put the pieces together. Of course, I would give anything to just have her back and to be able to help her. The pain of knowing I did not help is mingled with the anguish she must have endured at not feeling comfortable reaching out. Thank you for writing this.